In The Gifts of Imperfection, Brené Brown, a leading expert on shame, authenticity, and belonging, shares ten guideposts on the power of Wholehearted living—a way of engaging with the world from a place of worthiness.
Each day we face a barrage of images and messages from society and the media telling us who, what, and how we should be. We are led to believe that if we could only look perfect and lead perfect lives, we’d no longer feel inadequate. So most of us perform, please, and perfect, all the while thinking, “What if I can’t keep all of these balls in the air? Why isn’t everyone else working harder and living up to my expectations? What will people think if I fail or give up? When can I stop proving myself?”
In her ten guideposts, Brown engages our minds, hearts, and spirits as she explores how we can cultivate the courage, compassion, and connection to wake up in the morning and think, “No matter what gets done and how much is left undone, I am enough,” and to go to bed at night thinking, “Yes, I am sometimes afraid, but I am also brave. And, yes, I am imperfect and vulnerable, but that doesn’t change the truth that I am worthy of love and belonging.”
“This important book is about the lifelong journey from ‘What will people think?’ to ‘I am enough.’ Brown’s unique ability to blend original research with honest storytelling makes reading The Gifts of Imperfection like having a long, uplifting conversation with a very wise friend who offers compassion, wisdom, and great advice.”
—Harriet Lerner, New York Times best-selling author of The Dance of Anger and The Dance of Connection
“Brené Brown courageously tackles the dark emotions that get in the way of leading a fuller life; read this book and let some of that courage rub off on you.”
—Daniel H. Pink, New York Times best-selling author of A Whole New Mind
“Courage, compassion, and connection: Through Brené’s research, observations, and guidance, these three little words can open the door to amazing change in your life.’”
—Ali Edwards, author of Life Artist
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Yann Martel - Life of Pi
After the tragic sinking of a cargo ship, one solitary lifeboat remains bobbing on the wild, blue Pacific.The crew of the surviving vessel consists of a hyena, a zebra (with a broken leg), a female orang-utan, a 450-pound Royal Bengal tiger and Pi - a 16-year-old Indian boy.The scene is set for one of the most extraordinary pieces of literary fiction of recent years. Yann Martel's Life of Pi is a transformative novel, a dazzling work of imagination that will delight and astound readers in equal measure. It is a triumph of storytelling and a tale that will, as one character puts it, make you believe in God.
Sylvia Plath - Collected Poems
Containing everything that celebrated poet Sylvia Plath wrote after 1956, this is one of the most comprehensive collections of her work. Edited, annotated, and with an introduction by Ted Hughes.
Tony Parsons - Starting Over
This is the story of how we grow old - how we give up the dreams of youth for something better - and how many chances we have to get it right. George Bailey has been given the gift we all dream of - the chance to live his life again. After suffering a heart attack at the age of 42, George is given the heart of a 19-year-old - and suddenly everything changes... He is a friend to his teenage son and daughter - and not a stern Home Secretary, monitoring their every move. He makes love to his wife all night long - instead of from midnight until about five past. And suddenly he wants to change the world, just as soon as he shakes off his hangover. But George Bailey discovers that being young again is not all it is cracked up to be - and what he actually wants more than anything in the universe is to have his old life back.
Tony Parsons - My Favourite Wife
The world-wide, mega selling author of Man and Boy is back with a sizzling, Shanghai tale of sex, romance and second wives
Hot shot young lawyer Bill Holden and his wife Becca move with their four year old daughter to the booming, gold-rush city of Shanghai, a place of enormous wealth and crushing poverty, where fortunes are made and foreign marriages come apart in spectacular fashion.
Bill's law firm houses the Holden family in Paradise Mansions - a luxury apartment block where newly rich Chinese men install their second wives: fabulous young beauties like JinJin Li, ex-school teacher, crossword addict and the Holdens' neighbour.
After Becca witnesses a tragedy that awakens her to the reality of life beyond the glitzy surface of the city, she returns temporarily to London with Holly - and Bill and JinJin are thrown together.
Bill wants to be a better man than the millionaire who keeps JinJin Li as a second wife on the side. A better man than anyone who cheats. Becca is his best friend. And, in the end, adrift without his young family, can he give JinJin anything better than she had before?
My Favourite Wife is a book about where sex, romance and obsession ends, and where true love begins.
Anthony Burgess - A Clockwork Orange
Fifteen-year-old Alex and his three friends start an evening's mayhem by hitting an old man, tearing up his books and stripping him of money and clothes.
Or rather Alex and his three droogs tolchock an old veck, razrez his books, pull off his outer platties and take a malenky bit of cutter.
For Alex's confessions are written in 'nadsat' - a teenage argot of a not-too-distant future.
Because of his delinquent excesses, Alex is jailed and made subject to 'Ludovico's Technique', a chilling experiment in Reclamation Treatment...
Horror farce? Social Prophecy? Penetrating study of human choice between good and evil? A Clockwork Orange is all three, dazzling proof of Anthony Burgess's vast talents.
Paulo Coelho - Eleven Minutes
A new, international bestseller by the author of The Alchemist tells the story of Maria, a young girl from a Brazilian village, whose first innocent brushes with love leave her heartbroken. At a tender age, she becomes convinced that she will never find true love, instead believing that "Love is a terrible thing that will make you suffer ..." A chance meeting in Rio takes her to Geneva, where she dreams of finding fame and fortune. Instead, she ends up working as a prostitute.
In Geneva, Maria drifts further and further away from love as she develops a fascination with sex. Eventually, Maria's despairing view of love is put to the test when she meets a handsome young painter. In this odyssey of self-discovery, Maria has to choose between pursuing a path of darkness, sexual pleasure for its own sake, or risking everything to find her own "inner light" and the possibility of sacred sex, sex in the context of love.
In this gripping and daring new novel, Paulo Coelho sensitively explores the sacred nature of sex and love and invites us to confront our own prejudices and demons and embrace our own "inner light."
Brené Brown - Élj szívvel-lélekkel
Nagyon sokan nem merjük megmutatni, kik is vagyunk valójában, mert tartunk mások véleményétől, ítéletétől, félünk, hogy nem vagyunk elég jók. Ugyanakkor mindannyian ismerünk olyan sikeres embereket - ha csak hallomásból is -, akik csodálatos és inspiráló életet élnek. Az ő történetük általában arról szól, hogy teljes egészében elfogadták önmagukat saját tökéletlenségükkel és sérülékenységükkel együtt.
Brené Brown könyve segít eljutnunk a szívvel-lélekkel élt, önmagunk teljes elfogadásán alapuló életig. A könyvet olvasni olyan, mintha hosszas és felemelő beszélgetést folytatnánk egy bölcs baráttal, akitől együttérzést és hasznos tanácsokat kapunk.
Mit jelent az, hogy valaki önbecsüléssel közelít a dolgokhoz? Hogyan fogadhatjuk el tökéletlenségünket? Hogyan tehetünk szert mindarra, amire szükségünk van, és hogyan engedhetjük el mindazt, ami visszatart minket? Miért teszi lehetetlenné a valahová tartozást a beilleszkedés kényszere? Szerethetünk-e valakit úgy, hogy közben eláruljuk? Szerethetünk-e jobban másokat - például a párunkat és a gyermekeinket -, mint saját magunkat?
Többek között ezekre a kérdésekre keres és ad olyan válaszokat a könyv, amelyek föltárják, miért is nem működött eddig életünk adott területe úgy, ahogyan szerettük volna. Ha pedig megkerestük és beazonosítottuk az akadályokat, a szerző által nyújtott tíz "útjelző" segítségével eljuthatunk az önbecsüléssel élt életig. Ezek olyan mindennapi gyakorlatok, amelyek kijelölik számunkra az utat, és segítenek, hogy irányban maradjunk. Bármennyire félünk is a változástól, előbb-utóbb meg kell válaszolnunk maguknak a kérdést: Mi a nagyobb kockázat: elengedni, hogy mit gondolnak mások, vagy elengedni, amit érzek, amiben hiszek, aki vagyok?
Nigella Lawson - Nigella Bites
Nigella is now not only the best and most glamorous young home cook in Britain, and a great cookery writer, she's also become a household name. Her first short series on Channel 4 had over 2 million viewers and propelled her from success into stardom. How to Eat sold spectacularly on the back of the first unheralded 5-part series. Nigella Bites is a must-have for every viewer and all her fans. Some recipes are based on her popular Vogue columns, others are new and different, and all are characteristic of Nigella and the ethos of the TV series - uncomplicated, original, fresh, and perfect for the way we live today. They're easy to produce after a busy day at the office, fun to linger over at weekends or to make with the kids, delectable to read about, dreamy to look at and delicious to eat. They include Late Breakfasts, Party Food, TV Dinners, Trailer Trash , Big Lunches, Indoor Picnics, and other delights. Nigella wants her readers and her viewers to enjoy eating and cooking. With her, how could anyone resist!
David Mitchell - Felhőatlasz
MINDEN ÖSSZEFÜGG
Egy zaklatott életű ifjú zeneszerző az ihlet pillanatában ráérez az örökkévalóságra. Sorsszerű viszonyok, cinikus érzelmek és látnoki szerelmek motívumaiból hat történet rajzolódik ki, melyek mindegyike túlmutat önmagán – egy leírhatatlan harmónia felé. Ez az átkozottul tökéletes összhang szólal meg a Felhőatlasz olvasóiban.
David Mitchell bravúros felépítésű, virtuóz nyelvezetű művében az összefonódó életek minden időbeli és térbeli határt átlépve hatnak egymásra. A lelkek korokon és kontinenseken át vándorolnak, akár az égbolton átvonuló felhők. De ki irányítja sorsunkat: mi magunk vagy valamilyen külső erő? Képesek vagyunk-e tanulni a múltból, az előző életekből, vagy az emberiség újra és újra elköveti ugyanazokat a hibákat?
A regényből a Mátrix-trilógia és A parfüm rendezői forgattak vibrálóan szellemes filmet.
„Az eddigi legmerészebb vállalkozás… egyedi teljesítmény egy rendkívül tehetséges és nagyratörő író tollából.” – Matt Thorne, Independent on Sunday
„David Mitchell egy hullámvasútra csábítja olvasóit, akik először vonakodva szállnak fel, de miután belevágtak a kalandba, nem akarják, hogy véget érjen az út. Velem legalábbis ez történt.” – A.S. Byatt, Guardian
„A jövőbe látás, az elmélkedés és a szórakoztatás ragyogó, elégikus egyvelege.” – Neel Mukherjee, The Times
„A mód, ahogy Mitchell a Felhőatlasz történetét elmeséli, valósággal rabul ejtett.” – Lawrence Norfolk,
Jonathan Safran Foer - Extremely Loud and Incredibly Close
In Extremely Loud and Incredibly Close, Jonathan Safran Foer tells the story of a precocious 9-year old boy, Oskar Schell. Oskar is very intelligent and independent, writes letters to Stephen Hawking, designs jewelry, and wanders about New York City wearing only white while playing the tambourine. On 9/11, he discovers the family's answering machine contains 5 messages from his father trapped in the north tower before he dies, and he hides the messages from his mother. Oskar struggles to deal with this inconsolable loss, distancing himself from his mom who eventually finds another man, and dreaming of fanciful inventions that can protect people from harm. When he finds a key in his father's closet with the word "Black" on the envelope holding it. Oskar seaches the city for every family named Black in hopes they can tell him the secret of the key, in hopes of understanding his father better. Oskar's grandmother lives across the street from him, and she struggles with the loss of her son while remembering her own survival during the bombing of Dresden and the damage it did to her family. Jonathan Safran Foer explores the psychological fallout from 9/11 through an unlikely boy whose pain and ideas ring all too true. Extremely Loud and Incredibly Close has received high praise with the Rocky Mountain News saying, "Extremely Loud and Incredibly Close is a complex, hilarious, tear-jerking and terribly intimate story."
Alice Walker - The Color Purple
This book tells the story of Celie. Raped by the man she calls father, her two children taken from her and forced into an ugly marriage, she has no one to talk to but God, until she meets a woman who offers love and support.
Julie Powell - Julie & Julia (angol)
Powell, a 30-year-old secretary, began keeping her blog in the summer of 2002 as she embarked on trying out all 524 recipes from Julia Child's Mastering the Art of French Cooking in 365 days in the kitchen of her Queens apartment. The book turns to poetry everything from shopping for the perfect piece of liver to extracting marrow from the bone. Julie & Julia has sold nearly 100,000 copies and became the nonfiction winner of the first annual Lulu Blooker Prize, celebrating books spawned by blogs.
Harper Lee - To Kill a Mockingbird
'Shoot all the bluejays you want, if you can hit'em, but remember it's a sin to kill a mockingbird.'
A lawyer's advice to his children as he defends the real mockingbird of this enchanting classic - a black man charged with the rape of a white girl.
Through the young eyes of Scout and Jem Finch, Harper Lee explores with exuberant humour the irrationality of adult attitudes to race and class in the Deep South of the thirties.
The conscience of a town steeped in prejudice, violence and hypocrisy is prickled by the stamina of one man's struggle for justice.
But the weight of history will only tolerate so much...
Cecelia Ahern - P.S. I Love You
Some people wait their whole lives to find their soul mates. But not Holly and Gerry. They were childhood sweethearts - no one could imagine Holly and Gerry without each other. Until the unthinkable happens. Gerry's death devastates Holly. But as her 30th birthday looms Holly discovers that Gerry has left her a bundle of notes, gently guiding her into her new life without him, each signed 'PS, I Love You'. With some help from her friends, and her noisy and loving family, Holly finds herself laughing, crying, singing, dancing - and being braver than ever before. Life is for living, she realises - but it always helps if there's an angel watching over you.
Daniel Keyes - Flowers for Algernon
Charlie Gordon, IQ 68, is a floor sweeper, and the gentle butt of everyone's jokes, until an experiment in the enhancement of human intelligence turns him into a genius. But then Algernon, the mouse whose triumphal experimental tranformation preceded his, fades and dies, and Charlie has to face the possibility that his salvation was only temporary.
Elizabeth Gilbert - Eat, Pray, Love
Elizabeth Gilbert’s fourth and latest book – a #1 best selling memoir about the year she spent traveling around the world in search of personal restoration after a difficult divorce.
J. K. Rowling - Harry Potter and the Order of the Phoenix
There is a door at the end of a silent corridor. And it's haunting Harry Potter's dreams. Why else would he be waking in the middle of the night, screaming in terror? Here are just a few things on Harry's mind: - A Defense Against the Dark Arts teacher with a personality like poisoned honey. - A venomous, disgruntled house-elf - Ron as keeper of the Gryffindor Quidditch team - The looming terror of the end-of-term Ordinary Wizarding Level exams . . . and of course, the growing threat of He-Who-Must-Not-Be-Named. In the richest installment yet of J. K. Rowling's seven-part story, Harry Potter is faced with the unreliability of the very government of the magical world and the impotence of the authorities at Hogwarts. Despite this (or perhaps because of it), he finds depth and strength in his friends, beyond what even he knew, boundless loyalty; and unbearable sacrifice. Though thick runs the plot, listeners will race through these tapes and leave Hogwarts, like Harry, wishing only for the next train back.
F. Scott Fitzgerald - The Great Gatsby
The exemplary novel of the Jazz Age, F. Scott Fitzgeralds' third book, The Great Gatsby (1925), stands as the supreme achievement of his career. T. S. Eliot read it three times and saw it as the "first step" American fiction had taken since Henry James; H. L. Mencken praised "the charm and beauty of the writing," as well as Fitzgerald's sharp social sense; and Thomas Wolfe hailed it as Fitzgerald's "best work" thus far. The story of the fabulously wealthy Jay Gatsby and his love for the beautiful Daisy Buchanan, of lavish parties on Long Island at a time when, The New York Times remarked, "gin was the national drink and sex the national obsession," it is an exquisitely crafted tale of America in the 1920s that resonates with the power of myth. A novel of lyrical beauty yet brutal realism, of magic, romance, and mysticism, The Great Gatsby is one of the great classics of twentieth-century literature.
Sylvia Plath - The Bell Jar
The first and only novel by Sylvia Plath, originally published in 1963.
When Esther Greenwood wins an internship on a New York fashion magazine in 1953, she is elated, believing she will finally realise her dream to become a writer. Instead she finds herself spiralling into depression and eventually a suicide attempt, as she grapples with difficult relationships and a society which refuses to take women’s aspirations seriously.
Brené Brown - I Thought It Was Just Me
Shame manifests itself in many ways. Addiction, perfectionism, fear and blame are just a few of the outward signs that Dr. Brené Brown discovered in her 6-year study of shame’s effects on women. While shame is generally thought of as an emotion sequestered in the shadows of our psyches, I Thought It Was Just Me demonstrates the ways in which it is actually present in the most mundane and visible aspects of our lives—from our mental and physical health and body image to our relationships with our partners, our kids, our friends, our money, and our work.
After talking to hundreds of women and therapists, Dr. Brown is able to illuminate the myriad shaming influences that dominate our culture and explain why we are all vulnerable to shame. We live in a culture that tells us we must reject our bodies, reject our authentic stories, and ultimately reject our true selves in order to fit in and be accepted.
Outlining an empowering new approach that dispels judgment and awakens us to the genuine acceptance of ourselves and others, I Thought It Was Just Me begins a crucial new dialogue of hope. Through potent personal narratives and examples from real women, Brown identifies and explains four key elements that allow women to transform their shame into courage, compassion and connection. Shame is a dark and sad place in which to live a life, keeping us from connecting fully to our loved ones and being the women we were meant to be. But learning how to understand shame’s influence and move through it toward full acceptance of ourselves and others takes away much of shame’s power to harm.
It’s not just you, you’re not alone, and if you fight the daily battle of feeling like you are—somehow—just not "enough," you owe it to yourself to read this book and discover your infinite possibilities as a human being.