With Mothers Who Can’t Love: A Healing Guide for Daughters, Susan Forward, Ph.D., author of the smash #1 bestseller Toxic Parents, offers a powerful look at the devastating impact unloving mothers have on their daughters—and provides clear, effective techniques for overcoming that painful legacy.
In more than 35 years as a therapist, Forward has worked with large numbers of women struggling to escape the emotional damage inflicted by the women who raised them. Subjected to years of criticism, competition, role-reversal, smothering control, emotional neglect and abuse, these women are plagued by anxiety and depression, relationship problems, lack of confidence and difficulties with trust. They doubt their worth, and even their ability to love.
Forward examines the Narcissistic Mother, the Competitive Mother, the Overly Enmeshed mother, the Control Freak, Mothers who need Mothering, and mothers who abuse or fail to protect their daughters from abuse.
Filled with compelling case histories, Mothers Who Can’t Love outlines the self-help techniques Forward has developed to transform the lives of her clients, showing women how to overcome the pain of childhood and how to act in their own best interests.
Warm and compassionate, Mothers Who Can’t Love offers daughters the emotional support and tools they need to heal themselves and rebuild their confidence and self-respect.
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Arielle Schwartz - The Complex PTSD Workbook
"You are not broken, in need of fixing. Rather, you are deeply hurt, in need of care."
Facing unresolved childhood trauma is a brave, courageous act. With each step you take towards healing your painful past, you are sending yourself a strong message: you are worth it. Today, with this book, you are choosing to open yourself up to the life of possibility and happiness that you deserve.
In The Complex PTSD Workbook, clinical psychologist Arielle Schwartz helps you navigate the complicated, and often overwhelming, terrain of complex PTSD (C-PTSD). As you learn to understand the symptoms of C-PTSD, you will also gain valuable knowledge about common misdiagnoses and co-occurring disorders such as bipolar disorder, learning disabilities, anxiety disorders, major depressive disorder, and substance abuse, among others.
The exercises and examples in The Complex PTSD Workbook will safely guide you to explore the emotions and manifestations of your own PTSD:
"Diane was very skilled at avoiding dealing with her traumatic past. To survive, she had learned to bury her painful feelings and memories, preferring not to talk about her childhood. It simply hurt too much."
"Andrew grew up in a home where he felt responsible for his alcoholic mother. Sadly, she never recovered despite his many attempts to help her. As an adult, he continues to feel ineffective at work. When he receives any critical feedback from his boss, he feels deeply rejected and thinks, 'What is the point of trying?'"
"Renee spent many years pushing away her difficult past. However, becoming a parent has brought to the surface feelings and memories about how Renee was raised by her mother. She began relying upon avoidance strategies of emotional eating and drinking alcohol to 'hold herself together'. This way of coping was no longer working."
The Complex PTSD Workbook aims to empower you with a thorough understanding of the psychology and physiology of trauma so you can make informed choices about the path to healing that is right for you and ultimately, discover a life of wellness and freedom that for so long has seemed just out of reach.
Simon Baron-Cohen - The Science of Evil
Borderline personality disorder, autism, narcissism, psychosis, Asperger's: All of these syndromes have one thing in common--lack of empathy. In some cases, this absence can be dangerous, but in others it can simply mean a different way of seeing the world.
In The Science of Evil Simon Baron-Cohen, an award-winning British researcher who has investigated psychology and autism for decades, develops a new brain-based theory of human cruelty. A true psychologist, however, he examines social and environmental factors that can erode empathy, including neglect and abuse.
Based largely on Baron-Cohen's own research, The Science of Evil will change the way we understand and treat human cruelty.
Teal Swan - The Completion Process
Teal Swan’s previous book, Shadows Before Dawn, told the incredible story of how she survived 13 years of horrific physical, mental, and sexual abuse at the hands of a cult member in her community. After her escape at age 19, she forged a path back from the edge of despair and began the long process of making herself whole. Now, The Completion Process takes readers along on her restorative journey of healing and liberation. For anyone who has been fractured by trauma—and according to Teal, in one way or another, we all have—here is a way to put ourselves back together again, no longer inhibited by the past or terrified of the future.
Drawing on her wide range of extrasensory abilities—including clairvoyance, clairsentience, and clairaudience—and incorporating key aspects of inner child and shadow work, Teal offers a revolutionary 20-step process for healing any past hurt or present problem. The steps include:
Creation of a Safe Haven—setting up a mental place where it’s safe to re-enter a painful memory.
Validation—giving the painful emotion the message that we see it as valid.
Seeking Origin—asking, “When was the first time I felt this feeling?” to connect to the root of it.
Awaiting Relief—inside the memory, letting the feeling naturally shift in the direction of relief.
Purification and Healing—a ritual for closing the memory of trauma and beginning a “new life.”
“The Completion Process is not only a healing process,” Teal writes. “It’s also an enlightenment process.” It will leave readers with a sense of their value in the world and the assurance that life can be good again.
Michael W. Taft - The Mindful Geek
_The Mindful Geek_ details how to derive the benefits of mindfulness meditation without having to join a religion or drink metaphysical Kool-Aid. In the book, Michael Taft gives you step-by-step instructions in the powerful and reliable techniques of mindfulness meditation, and outlines the psychological and neuroscientific research underpinning these practices.
You don’t have to believe in mindfulness meditation for it to work. Like any good technology, mindfulness will do the job reliably whether you believe in it or not. And mindfulness IS a kind of technology for hacking the human wetware in order to improve your life.
If you are smart, rational, science-y, and have a desire to see what meditation is really all about, this book is for you.
Andy Puddicombe - The Headspace Guide to Meditation and Mindfulness
Quiet the mind, feel less stressed, less tired, and achieve a new level of calm and fulfillment in just ten minutes a day
Andy Puddicombe, a former Buddhist monk, the Voice of Headspace, and the UK’s foremost mindfulness expert, is on a mission: to get people to take 10 minutes out of their day to sit in the here and now.
Like his readers and students, Andy began his own meditation practice as a normal, busy person with everyday concerns, and he has since designed a program of mindfulness and guided meditation that fits neatly into a jam-packed daily routine―proving that just 10 minutes a day can make a world of difference.
Accessible and portable, The Headspace Guide to Meditation and Mindfulness offers simple but powerful meditation techniques that positively impact every area of physical and mental health: from productivity and focus, to stress and anxiety relief, sleep, weight-loss, personal relationships...the benefits are limitless. The result? More headspace, less stress. Andy brings this ancient practice into the modern world, tailor made for the most time starved among us.
Corinne Sweet - The Mindfulness Journal
In today's busy world, finding physical and mental space for peace and calm amidst the competing demands of work, family and friends can be a challenge. Mindfulness is a simple and powerful practice that can help you cut through the noise and reclaim tranquillity, wherever you are.
The Mindfulness Journal offers an introduction to mindfulness and easy exercises that can be done whether you are sitting at your desk, squeezed on to a crowded train, or standing in line at the supermarket. Beautifully illustrated, with notes pages to record your thoughts, this journal is your indispensable companion to a more peaceful, stress-free day.
Matt Haig - Reasons To Stay Alive
WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO FEEL TRULY ALIVE?
Aged 24, Matt Haig's world caved in. He could see no way to go on living. This is the true story of how he came through crisis, triumphed over an illness that almost destroyed him and learned to live again.
A moving, funny and joyous exploration of how to live better, love better and feel more alive, Reasons to Stay Alive is more than a memoir. It is a book about making the most of your time on earth.
'I wrote this book because the oldest clichés remain the truest. Time heals. The bottom of the valley never provides the clearest view. The tunnel does have light at the end of it, even if we haven't been able to see it . . . Words, just sometimes, really can set you free.'
Sarah Knight - The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving a F*ck
The surprising art of caring less
and getting more
Are you stressed out, overbooked, and underwhelmed by life? Fed up with pleasing everyone else before you please yourself?
It's time to stop giving a f*ck.
This brilliant, hilarious, and practical parody of Marie Kondo's bestseller The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up explains how to rid yourself of unwanted obligations, shame, and guilt--and give your f*cks instead to people and things that make you happy.
The easy-to-use, two-step NotSorry Method for mental decluttering will help you unleash the power of not giving a f*ck about:
Family drama
Having a "bikini body"
Iceland
Co-workers' opinions, pets, and children
And other bullsh*t!
And it will free you to spend your time, energy, and money on the things that really matter. So what are you waiting for? Stop giving a f*ck and start living your best life today!
Judith Orloff - Positive Energy
Are you forever rushing around, fending off chronic exhaustion? Are you desperately overcommitted, afraid to say no? Do you have fang marks from being bled dry by energy vampires? Does the onslaught of violence in the news leave you drained? If so, you're the victim of a hidden energy crisis. To resolve it you need more than traditional solutions such as eating well, getting a good night's sleep, and exercising. Here at last is the complete prescription to stop you from feeling constantly drained and enables you to live a more vibrant life: the Positive Energy Program created by Judith Orloff, M.D.
Dr. Orloff is the pioneer behind Energy Psychiatry, a new field that addresses the subtle energetic components of health and behavior. Energy Psychiatry blends the practice of mainstream medicine with an emerging scientific understanding of subtle energies, revered by many cross-cultural healing traditions as our life force. In Positive Energy, Dr. Orloff explains this exciting new discipline and how it led her to formulate ten essential prescriptions for boosting energy, improving relationships, and combating energy vampires. The prescriptions are:
Awaken your intuition and rejuvenate yourself--and learn the cure for technodespair and overload from emails, computers, and phones
Find a nurturing spiritual path that fits your own beliefs and inner stirrings
Design an energy-aware approach to diet, exercise, and health--and learn how to avoid the "energetic overeating" that sabotages attempts to lose weight--a major reasons diets fail
Generate positive emotional energy to counter negativity
Develop a heart-centered sexuality
Open yourself to the flow of creativity and inspiration to achieve greater joy
Celebrate the sacredness of laughter, pampering, and the replenishment of retreat--it's not selfish to take care of yourself
Discover how to attract positive people and situations
Protect yourself from energy vampires with specific shielding techniques
Create abundance and a continuing flow of energy
Following each chapter are Dr. Orloff's interviews with luminaries who share their personal secrets about how they use a specific prescription to generate more energy. You'll discover how Quincy Jones's intuition opened up after brain surgery, Larry King honed his interviewing techniques, Naomi Judd recovered from hepatitis C, and Jamie Lee Curtis deals with draining people.
Dr. Orloff says, "We can't stop the negative circumstances of our time--our cell phones will keep ringing, e-mails will keep coming, people will be rude, our children will be demanding, and bad things will happen in the world. But we can learn ways to protect our energy so that we can stay centered in dealing with the stresses that arise." Positive Energy shows you how to slow down time to match your natural rhythms, allowing you to be fully present for your life. Learning this can make the difference between an exuberant life and one you're always recovering from. Filled with Dr. Orloff's warmth, humor, and compassion, Positive Energy is your tool kit for transforming fatigue, stress, and fear into an abundance of vibrance, strength, and love.
Louise L. Hay - You Can Heal Your Life
Louise L. Hay, bestselling author, is an internationally known leader in the self-help field. Her key message is: "If we are willing to do the mental work, almost anything can be healed." The author has a great deal of experience and firsthand information to share about healing, including how she cured herself after being diagnosed with cancer.
Kay Redfield Jamison - An Unquiet Mind
In an "invaluable memoir of manic depression, at once medically knowledgeable, deeply human, and beautifully written" (The New York Times Book Review), Kay Redfield Jamison offers a story with a dual perspective: from that of healer and healed. Powerfully candid, exceptionally wise, An Unquiet Mind is one of those rare book that has the power to transform lives--and even save them.
Richard Wiseman - 59 Seconds
In "59 Seconds", psychologist Professor Richard Wiseman presents a fresh approach to change that helps people achieve their aims and ambitions in minutes, not months. From mood to memory, persuasion to procrastination, and resilience to relationships, Wiseman outlines the research supporting this new science of rapid change, and describes how these quick and quirky techniques can be incorporated into everyday life. Think a little, change a lot. This title helps to: discover why even thinking about going to the gym can help you keep in shape; learn how pot plants make you more creative; and, find out why putting a pencil between your teeth instantly makes you happier.
'At last, a self-help guide that is based on proper research. Perfect for busy, curious, smart people' - Simon Singh, author of "Fermat's Last Theorem".
'A triumph of scientifically proven advice over misleading myths of self-help. Challenging, uplifting and long overdue' - Derren Brown.
About the Author
Richard Wiseman is Britain's only professor for the Public Understanding of Psychology and is the author of the bestselling Quirkology. He is the psychologist most frequently quoted by the British media.
Susan Sontag - Illness as Metaphor
The fantasies concocted around cancer and around tuberculosis in earlier times, undergo close examination in Susan Sontag's brilliant book. Her subject is the unreal and often punitive uses of illness as a figure or metaphor in our culture. Her point is that illness is not a metaphor, and that the most truthful way of regarding illness - and the healthiest way of being ill - is to resist such metaphoric thinking.
Dr. Exterdéné Zsurkai Ilona - Szarkáné Kövi Márta - Segítő kapcsolat
A tankönyv a szociális gondozó és ápoló szakképzés számára készült. Az utóbbi időben világossá vált, hogy a személyes gondoskodást nyújtó intézményekben dolgozó szakemberek számára munkájuk ellátásához ezek az ismeretek épp oly fontosak, minta az ápolási, gondozási feladatok. További cél a mentálhigiénés és a kapcsolódó ismeretek elsajátításánál, hogy mindazok, akik szociális területen dolgoznak, képesek legyenek a konkrét helyzetekben felismerni a megjelenő problémát, illetve a gyakorlatban alkalmazni tudják ezeket az ismereteket. A tankönyv 4 nagy területet ölel fel. Ezek az alábbiak:
- Pszichológiai alapismeretek
- A kommunikáció alapfogalmai
- Mentálhigiéné
- A szupervízió
A tankönyv végén a szakkifejezések jegyzéke jelentős mértékben segíti a hallgatók önálló felkészülését. A tanulók önellenőrzését segítik a fejezetek végén található összefoglaló kérdések.
Roy F. Baumeister - John Tierney - Willpower
One of the world's most esteemed and influential psychologists, Roy F. Baumeister, teams with New York Times science writer John Tierney to reveal the secrets of self-control and how to master it.
In Willpower, the pioneering researcher Roy F. Baumeister collaborates with renowned New York Times science writer John Tierney to revolutionize our understanding of the most coveted human virtue: self-control.
In what became one of the most cited papers in social science literature, Baumeister discovered that willpower actually operates like a muscle: it can be strengthened with practice and fatigued by overuse. Willpower is fueled by glucose, and it can be bolstered simply by replenishing the brain's store of fuel. That's why eating and sleeping- and especially failing to do either of those-have such dramatic effects on self-control (and why dieters have such a hard time resisting temptation).
Baumeister's latest research shows that we typically spend four hours every day resisting temptation. No wonder people around the world rank a lack of self-control as their biggest weakness. Willpower looks to the lives of entrepreneurs, parents, entertainers, and artists-including David Blaine, Eric Clapton, and others-who have flourished by improving their self-control.
The lessons from their stories and psychologists' experiments can help anyone. You learn not only how to build willpower but also how to conserve it for crucial moments by setting the right goals and using the best new techniques for monitoring your progress. Once you master these techniques and establish the right habits, willpower gets easier: you'll need less conscious mental energy to avoid temptation. That's neither magic nor empty self-help sloganeering, but rather a solid path to a better life.
Combining the best of modern social science with practical wisdom, Baumeister and Tierney here share the definitive compendium of modern lessons in willpower. As our society has moved away from the virtues of thrift and self-denial, it often feels helpless because we face more temptations than ever. But we also have more knowledge and better tools for taking control of our lives. However we define happiness-a close- knit family, a satisfying career, financial security-we won't reach it without mastering self-control.
Joseph Zinker - Creative Process in Gestalt Therapy
This is a deeply compassionate book which explores the relationship between therapist and patient and explains the roots, aims and methods of Gestalt therapy. The author, Joseph Zinker, who is not only an active practitioner but also a painter, sculptor and poet, argues that therapy need not be an affair governed by fixed rules and principles but can be a creative process in which both the patient and the therapist invent and improvise on strategies to change the patient's behavior. Creative process in Gestalt therapy encourages all of us to cast off our rigid personalities and try to realize our full potential as human beings.
Daniel Keyes - Flowers for Algernon
Charlie Gordon, IQ 68, is a floor sweeper, and the gentle butt of everyone's jokes, until an experiment in the enhancement of human intelligence turns him into a genius. But then Algernon, the mouse whose triumphal experimental tranformation preceded his, fades and dies, and Charlie has to face the possibility that his salvation was only temporary.
Pál Ferenc - A szorongástól az önbecsülésig
A szorongásaink, aggodalmaink, nehézségeink és gyöngeségeink rettenetesen megkeseríthetik az életünket. Hiába szeretnénk fejlődni, növekedni, a sebeink, a zavaraink akadályoznak minket és kapcsolatainkat, de a munkánkat is. Amikor akadozik az élet bennünk és körülöttünk, amikor azt gondoljuk magunkról, hogy velünk valami nincs rendben, éppen akkor van igazán szükségünk az önbecsülésre.
Az önbecsülés az emberi élet egyik alapértéke. Általa vagyunk jóban önmagunkkal, érezhetjük jól magunkat a bőrünkben, és lehetünk érdekes társaság magunk számára. Az önbecsülés tesz alkalmassá arra, hogy megfelelő társat találjunk magunknak, akivel kölcsönös meghitt kapcsolatban lehetünk. A megfelelő önbecsülés segít megvédeni magunkat, és nem engedi, hogy rosszul bánjanak velünk. Megalapozza a hiteles kommunikációt, és alkalmassá tesz az együttműködésre érzelmileg nehéz helyzetekben is.
Az önbecsülés segít, hogy ne vegyünk több terhet magunkra, mint amit az élet valóban nekünk szánt, de ami a miénk, azt képesek legyünk hordozni. Az önbecsülés révén tudjuk kihozni magunkból a legjobbat, és elviselni vereségeinket. Az önbecsülés által tisztelhetjük magunkat akkor is, ha gyöngének bizonyultunk. Szilárdságot biztosít, hogy ne akarjunk mindenkinek megfelelni, és megerősít, ha valaki nem fogad el minket. Az önbecsülés széppé teszi az életet, mert segít fölfedezni mások értékeit, és megbecsülni mindazt, amit kapunk.
Ráadásul az önbecsülés sok pénzt takarít meg nekünk, hiszen nem szorulunk rá arra, hogy tárgyakon keresztül, birtoklás révén bizonygassuk magunk előtt is, hogy érünk valamit. Az önbecsülés hozzájárul a boldogsághoz azáltal is, hogy mindig lesz egy barátunk, akire számíthatunk, aki együttérzéssel fordul felénk - mi magunk. Az önbecsülés sok szorongástól és aggodalomtól szabadít meg, gyógyítja a sebeinket, és lehetővé teszi, hogy egészségesen és önfeledten éljünk. Segít, hogy szembenézzünk a realitásokkal, még ha fájdalmas is.
Az önbecsülés föltárja, hogy a szívünk mélyén lakik bennünk valaki, aki sokkal több, mint amit valaha is reméltünk.
Hadley Cantril - The Invasion from Mars
On Halloween night 1938, Orson Welles broadcast a radio adaptation of the H. G. Wells fantasy, The War of the Worlds. What listeners heard sounded so realistic that at least a million were frightened by word that "strange creatures" from Mars had landed in central New Jersey and were "unleashing a deadly assault." Several thousand were so terrified they ran into the streets, drove away in their cars, or called the police for information about how to escape. Why did so many panic when the circumstances reported were so improbable? That is just the question Hadley Cantril, then a young social psychologist, set out to answer. Originally published in 1940, The Invasion from Mars remains a classic. The broadcast provided a unique real-life opportunity to explore why the relatively new medium of radio could have such an effect. Using a mix of research methods, Cantril shows that the impact of the broadcast had less to do with what went out over the air than with the "standards of judgment" people did or did not use in evaluating what they were hearing. This book is of continuing value to those interested in communications and mass behavior.
Bronnie Ware - The Top Five Regrets of the Dying
After too many years of unfulfilling work, Bronnie Ware began searching for a job with heart. Despite having no formal qualifications or experience, she found herself working in palliative care. Over the years she spent tending to the needs of those who were dying, Bronnie's life was transformed. Later, she wrote an Internet blog about the most common regrets expressed to her by the people she had cared for. The article, also called "The Top Five Regrets of the Dying", gained so much momentum that it was read by more than three million people around the globe in its first year. At the requests of many, Bronnie now shares her own personal story. Bronnie has had a colourful and diverse past, but by applying the lessons of those nearing their death to her own life, she developed an understanding that it is possible for people, if they make the right choices, to die with peace of mind. In this book, she expresses in a heartfelt retelling how significant these regrets are and how we can positively address these issues while we still have the time. "The Top Five Regrets of the Dying" gives hope for a better world. It is a story told through sharing her inspiring and honest journey, which will leave you feeling kinder towards yourself and others, and more determined to live the life you are truly here to live. This delightful memoir is a courageous, life-changing book.